Till it all backfires

I have a confession to make, i am one of those people who copy paste stuff, and print. In a more practical case, i type a text, which i feel suits the situation n broadcast it (now if you have a kabambe you might not know what i mean but then again in the kabambe is the "add recipient" option.Av been there,yeah)
So i type a text, "hey where are you? are you free, wanna see you" I press broadcast, to 10 of my people.

Shock on me at the responses

Person number one says he is in class, so is number two and don't think i was being stood up, who can do that to all of this, anyway some are available but do not interest my fancy so i text back "just asking" n put a LOL (laugh out loud if you do not know) there. I am down to three people. Game on.
Now these people are in three different locations and Safeminist as to juggle through the city to reach them. I read somewhere that if a lady cancels a date its because she has to and if a man cancels a date its because he has TWO.I have three, what you gonna do? Read on.

First stop

Location:City center, a restaurant, we split bills because this is abrupt.
Entrance time:12pm
Occasion\Purpose:Catching up and in my mind providing him time tofungua roho because i will not give him one after this, he does not say anything concerning relationships, i am kinda disappointed but i compose myself. Looking at my watch, time to go.
Exit time:2:05 pm

 Second stop

Location: House
Entrance time: since its near town, and thanks to the traffic jam i arrive at 3 pm
Occasion\Purpose:just as above...hehehe
Whatever happens happens, and as they say what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas
Exit time:6 pm. heading into town and guy number 3 is blazing my phone asking where i am.by 7 i am back in town.

Third stop

By the time i am here i am tired and just want to go home, so i make it brief, "next time we should met earlier he tells me" in my mind, "i should schedule you to number one next time, not three"

And the habit habit continues....

Finally i am at home, exhausted.  In bed now i type a text "Had a great time today we should do it again *smiley face* Goodnight"..again i press BROADCAST.
A day well spent.
Lights off.

That Girl Who Wount Spend

Most of you have been saying that i am unfair to guys, i am seeing on them which i guess he meant a translation of 'nawaonea' but today i take a chill pill.
I am feeling guys who have those chicks who would not spend a dime when with a man. "what is his money for anyway?" i could quote a friend of mine who is one of these species.
This lady is not the poorest i know nor is she the richest i know but come on, if you offer to pay the bus fare for once , it would not kill a guy.

"Bruise my ego"

I ask my male friends if they would let a lady pay for a service be it lunch, dinner, or even that bus fare. 
Their answer, generally, they would not let a mama do that, "she will turn the story on me to look like a loser" (only an immature lady would do this by the way) Some ladies i am told will brag that they fed a guy.
 Some male guys would let her pay, "if she invited me then she should pay, if i invited her i will definately own up so that i also get a third date,"
My take, 
The day i invite you, for lunch, yes you. I will pay but in the meantime if you keep insisting we hook up, you will pay the bill or we split, (again depending on how well we relate) 

So back to the lady on top, she is going out today, invited of course, and all i am waiting for is her to call me i M-pesa her fare to her Friday destination, of course with a promise to refund but i do not expect to happen because i am told real friends don't pay debts they owe you.for real.
Aha,there goes my ringtone, Lady friend calling, gotta go.


Have a fabulous weekend though.


 

Its Friday

Its Friday!!

Furahiday is here, and its raining, making the evening dull altogether, but wait for it, people will still go out, considering that it was end month just at the beginning of the week.

I did not intend to write anything today but seeing the number of TGIF s going around it gave me something. 

Its been long since i went out i must admit (the economy is pulling us all apart not that you don't know) but the last time i went out i had a great time, thanks to my people.

My question  would be if love can be found in a hopeless place-i had to use that line,thank you.
So being a Friday night club will be packed to usher in the weekend. People dashing in from their stuffy offices to even more stuffier clubs to drink one two to "release tension"or "release lock" as most of them refer it as.

Tonight i will not be one of them.

I will be all indoors hibernating.Which reminds me, the last time we went out, my friend and i meet this guy, good looking i could tell even in the infrared lights bouncing off the walls, the guy was a little tipsy and was talking all he could talk at the same time.

Fast forward to last month

I bump into Mr. Met at the club. Cool and composed and very sober this time, he tells me the reason he was there was because of his friends, and that they had abandoned him there after he got drunk. That gets me thinking, is it worth it to go out, alone or with your friends and risk being robbed, being mugged, getting out of control.
Hey its just a thought, and i would like you to think abut that.
Whatever you do, wherever you go.
Stay safe people.
TGIF.

Introducing your GIRLFRIEND as your SISTER, SERIOUSLY?

I don't know how to put this one down without stepping on unhealed wounds of some of the people in my inner circle, but for all its worth, here goes.
See my friend and her boyfriend (ex-boyfriend right now) were out and about one afternoon taking a walk together just like you people in relationships do. They were all over each other P.D.A (public display of affection) and all that, until they meet the boyfriends friends. Being the good gal she is my gal steps aside to give her guy room with his friends, walks aside with a smile. "hey who is that?" she hears the guys asking about her.

"Thats my siz."

The guys look a her with all the hyena eyes they could master and my gal looks away as if she has not heard a word.Playing dumb, its called.
Okay i have no problem with the girl.This guy is my issue here, was he too ashamed to say that she is his girlfriend? Or was he just being appreciating?

For the sake of Safeminist's readership i will not generalize this, i will stick to this one man.Introducing your girlfriend as your sister eithr leaves her the option of concluding that she is a single woman or that your friends know another gorlfriend you have. I know guys will say that maybe he was 'protecting' her from his friends who would have taken advantage and tried to lure her, but fellas that is not an excuse and yes i know u might think my gal is to blame but seriously how far are you going to push it for a relationship?

Have a fulfilling Wednesday, now would you? 

Why HE cannot date me or SaFeminist cannot date him.

Many people i meet always ask why are u single why aren't you seeing any and so on and so forth.

Its not that i have not met the right people or that am not straight, people i am very straight, but some people i meet leave me astonished or better yet repelled.

This type of a guy.

I know where you meet someone should determine how you relate with then, i met this one in school. So the approach is all casual and laid back.

He is the silent guy whom only talks when need be. Yeah i liked him but i think i am jinxed, or is he. Just when i am about to say yes to him and myself being an item, he opens his mouth. Oozes of cheap liquor and that turns me onto rude chick mode.

 "Will you be my girlfriend"he asks...my mind replies "not even if you and i were the ones to save humanity" "i have a boyfriend", i reply. "sorry."

First impression lasts.

Fellas you need to know that a lady is either attracted or driven away by how you present yourself. This one would have made it but his general self presentation made me run for the hills and this has not happened once or twice.

You leave me no option but to choose the easier way out, i have a boyfriend.

So to answer my friends questions, why are you single safeminist? 

I AM SINGLE DUE TO PUBLIC DEMAND!!

Word.

Why HE cannot date me or SaFeminist cannot date him.

Many people i meet always ask why are u single why aren't you seeing any and so on and so forth.

Its not that i have not met the right people or that am not straight, people i am very straight, but some people i meet leave me astonished or better yet repelled.

This type of a guy.

I know where you meet someone should determine how you relate with then, i met this one in school. So the approach is all casual and laid back.

He is the silent guy whom only talks when need be. Yeah i liked him but i think i am jinxed, or is he. Just when i am about to say yes to him and myself being an item, he opens his mouth. Oozes of cheap liquor and that turns me onto rude chick mode.

 "Will you be my girlfriend"he asks...my mind replies "not even if you and i were the ones to save humanity" "i have a boyfriend", i reply. "sorry."

First impression lasts.

Fellas you need to know that a lady is either attracted or driven away by how you present yourself. This one would have made it but his general self presentation made me run for the hills and this has not happened once or twice.

You leave me no option but to choose the easier way out, i have a boyfriend.

So to answer my friends questions, why are you single safeminist? 

I AM SINGLE DUE TO PUBLIC DEMAND!!

Word.