Now in this relationships there are arguements and so forth but i hear people say "My babe makes me happy" "my girlfriend makes me feel happy" et cetra. My question is, don't you feel happy or don't you cheer yourself up when you are lalone.
I dont mean to be a hater but i would like to introduce you to a theory in social studies/ sociology. Better known as Maslaw's Theory of needs.
In sociology there are 5 levels of fulfillment that lead one to happiness.This theory called Maslaw's hierarchy of needs...
You have to fulfil YOUR needs before you move on to your babe, boo, hun and all other borrowed words we use. Myself included.
I am not that person who will 'eat love' just because i want to be with you and you my man are a couch potato. no, Safeminist does not do that to herself and to her offspring.
Do not mistake me for being materialistic but you need to fulfill your needs first then come and lets make happy babies (if you are lucky that is)
Some of us derive our happiness from doing good to the society and dedication of our time to the less fortunate and some of us from feeling loved by others even if that is not much the case, and well lets not forget the sadists out there.
My point today is this, if you are not happy within you then it is hard for those around you to feel the same and we alll know that love is a two way street.
To the guys, dont just wallow and expect a woman to come be your rock of Gibraltar do you first then all else comes later.
Be good.
I believe in Karma, so should you
You have an effort keep up the Safeminist
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